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Patience

“It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find its way.”

-Unknown

Today’s topic has always been difficult to follow through for me as unfortunately, patience has never been one of my virtues. Though I am working to improve that.

But even if I don’t alway like it, I’ve seen numerous times that when something comes later than expected, it comes in abundance.

The key thing people sometimes forget is that during a waiting period, you still have to work toward the goal. You have to keep trying no matter how many roadblocks you come across.

The combination of hard work and patience always pays off at some point.

If you’re a generally impatient person like I am, here are a few tips to help you with that:

  • Always remember to breath deeply.
  • Stretch out your muscles as often as you can as this relieves tension which in turn, makes you calmer.
  • Go to a quiet place for just a minute, (even if it’s the restroom if you’re at work or something). Some psychologists suggest that when you drown out all the noise in the background, even temporarily, it can give you a more clear focus.

And always keep in mind, anything achieved overnight rarely remains constant in the long run.

Outlook Vs. Reality

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”

-Theodore Roosevelt

I’ve always believed that our outlook on the occurrences in life, both good and bad, can determine our future in significant ways.

If something bad happens and we learn from it, we can decrease the chances of it happening again.

Many have argued otherwise, stating that certain things like death, natural disasters, etc are out of our hands.

And while that is true, there is some science behind having a positive outlook.

When you approach a problem thinking, “This sucks, but it already happened. So how can I soften the blow?” you’re more likely to think of a solution than in a state of constant anger or disappointment.

To specify, I don’t mean to say don’t get upset or angry. That’s natural and shouldn’t be suppressed.

But it doesn’t hurt to couple that anger with the thought process of possible solutions.

You may not be able to smile right then and there. But you can certainly pave the road to that smile.

As Charles R. Swindoll believed, life is 10% action and 90% reaction.

Counting Your Blessings

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”

-Wille Nelson

Yesterday, I talked about understanding the value of grief. Today, I thought I’d discuss giving the same prevalence to the good things in life.

I don’t just mean major accomplishments, I mean the small, everyday occurrences in life that we otherwise, may not even realize.

One of the things I started doing in the last year or so is being thankful for the tiniest good things in a day. It changed my outlook of things in ways I couldn’t have fathomed.

If I wake up in the morning and it’s sunny, I’ll say to myself, “Thank you God” or “Thank you universe for this pleasant weather today.”

And I’ll carry on like that for everything throughout the day even if it seems insignificant.

As crazy as this may sound, just yesterday there was a movie I particularly wanted to see that randomly aired on TV. And I was grateful for it even though in the long run, it hardly meant anything.

Even if you’re not a spiritual person, scientists have argued that such behavior has the potential to produce more endorphins which give you a feeling of euphoria.

So whether you thank a higher power, the universe or just the aura around you, just acknowledge anything and everything good. In time, your entire outlook on life could change.

The Value of Grief

“Never forget 3 types of people in your life: 1. Who helped you in your difficult times. 2. Who left you in your difficult times. 3. Who put you in a difficult time.

-Unknown

We all hate grief and want it to go away as fast as possible whenever it comes.

Unfortunately, nobody can control that aspect of our lives. At various periods in our lives, we’re happy and at other times, sad.

Since it’s unavoidable, the best thing to do is to learn from it.

When you’re sad, it feels like the end of the world. It feels like the cycle of doom will never end.

Once it does, however, it leaves some valuable lessons behind.

Firstly, it teaches you who your true friends are.

Secondly, it teaches you certain paths to avoid in the future.

And lastly, it teaches you never to take moments of happiness for granted.

We all hate sadness. But since it’s not going away, we might as well utilize it for what it’s worth.

Mental Health Awareness

“Depression is being colorblind and constantly told how colorful the world is.”

-Atticus

Although I’ve talked about depression and other mental health conditions before, this post has a slightly different agenda.

I urge anyone dealing with mental health issues to spread awareness of what your issues are and how specifically they become roadblocks during various endeavors.

Having been diagnosed with clinical depression a few years ago, I remember how difficult it was initially for my family to even know what’s actually going on in my head.

They merely thought, if you’re sad, watch a sitcom or listen to upbeat music. Think happy thoughts and you’ll be fine.

The didn’t understand that mental health has chemical correlations inside our brains.

In the last few years, the #IDONTMIND movement has urged mental health patients to open up and I applaud that.

With that, however, it’s also a good idea, especially for doctors, to spread more awareness on what having mental health issues means from a medical perspective.

What Doesn’t Kill You…

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

-Philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche

I know today’s quote was never meant to be taken in the literal sense.

I’m well aware that it’s meant to be more psychologically.

For example, if you’re in a car wreck and you survive, it obviously doesn’t make you stronger physically.

With that disclaimer out of the way, I still feel this old proverb needs to be modified. Perhaps the word “can make” in front of “us stronger.”

I say that because, in this day and age, mental illness issues are far more out in the open than when the quote was originally said.

We know that certain occurrences can traumatize us and break us mentally even if we survive physically.

So in many cases, we can indeed come out stronger after a pivotal moment, physical or emotional.

But that’s not always the case. Hence, we need to advocate that what doesn’t kill us can make us stronger given the right circumstances and environment.

But it’s not always easy and needs to assessed on an individual basis.

Optimistic Worrying

“Worrying is thinking negative thoughts about things that are outside of your control.”

-Mel Robbin

The title of today’s post may seem oxymoronic or counterintuitive. Worrying by definition is a negative trait so how can it be optimistic?

Let me elaborate.

There are hundreds of writers, self-help gurus and philosophers who advise us not to worry as it not only doesn’t help our dilemmas but also brings our mental health down.

Realistically, however, we can’t help it at times. We’re human. When our backs are against the wall, we’re bound to be concerned.

What we can do to alleviate some of the negative energy is combined the worrying with rational thinking.

If you’re in a tough spot, worry a little but also think about the solution. Admit to yourself that the situation really sucks. But then immediately ask yourself what’s a possible solution? Or how can you tackle the longterm effects of this?

Hence you end up with what I call optimistic worrying. You don’t suppress your negative emotions but instead, you add positive thoughts to them to balance them out.

As human beings, it’s impossible never to worry about anything. But we can still nurture and/or manipulate those worries in order to minimize their consequences.

Comparing Yourself With Others

“A flower does not think of competing with the one next to it. It just blooms.”

-Sensei Ogui

How do we judge our rate of success in life? Ideally, it should be by the parameters of each individual endeavor.

If your goal of the day is to stock up on groceries, on paper, it shouldn’t be too difficult unless unforeseen circumstances get in the way.

On the other hand, if you’re thinking of transitioning from an apartment to a mansion-sized house, it’s obviously not going to be done in a flash unless you have Aladdin’s genie helping you.

Jokes aside, the one thing to avoid is to compare our success to others.

The second we start thinking why didn’t this happen to me when it happened to so-and-so so quickly is when the downfall comes.

We each move at our own pace. Our expectations should be formed keeping ourselves in minds, not others.

No doubt, it’s not always easy. Because I’m a writer, whenever I see someone who’s more or less on the same level get published much faster or find rapid fame, I have to remind my self that his or her success has nothing to do with my skills (or lack thereof). Their journey is theirs, mine is mine.

Never slack on working hard toward your dreams but at the same time, set a pace for it that works for you, not a pace that someone else sets.

Dream Job

“Choose a job that you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

-Confucius

I’ve always been fascinated with today’s quote. Part of it comes from the interest in the creative arts which traditionally, has always been associated with the “starving artist” stereotype.

However, upon entering adulthood and being saddled with responsibilities, I realized it’s not always easy.

I can’t be entirely sure but I’m willing to bet Confucious didn’t have a mortgage payment or medical bills to pay when he said that.

So what’s the solution?

In my opinion, working your way toward your dream job as opposed to jumping right into it.

If your dream job is a profession in which financial rewards are uncertain, get a “safe” job temporarily, save and make a smooth transition at the end of the journey.

One of the biggest examples of this are people in the acting profession. So many actors have spoken about “actor by day, waiter by night” stories while struggling in Hollywood or New York.

During the day, they would work toward their goals and at night, they would work to pay the bills.

Always do what you love. Follow your passion makes it makes you you. But simultaneously, make sure you don’t starve.

Practice Makes Perfect

“Practice makes perfect.”

-Unknown

We all are familiar with today’s quote. While origins of it are debatable, it’s generally believed that it first appeared in the English language in “The Diary and Autobiography of John Adams” around 1760.

Since then, it’s had its 15 minutes of fame and it’s time for us to retire it.

We now understand that a conception like perfection can never exist.

Firstly, because perfection is largely subjective. What’s the perfect car to drive? What’s the perfect house to live in? What’s the perfect movie or book?

Ask these questions to multiple people and you’ll get multiple opinions.

Secondly, should perfection really exist, society would never grow and evolve as no one would strive to aim higher. It would bring forth a dangerous sense of complacency.

Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes for improvement. And room for improvement is boundless.

Nobody can be perfect. But we can all get better in any endeavor we choose so as long as we strive for it.

Obsession

“Obsession is the single most wasteful human activity because with an obsession you keep coming back and back and back to the same question and never get an answer.”

-Norman Mailer

There are times when something we want so badly is difficult to procure without an uphill journey.

It’s human nature then to want it even more.

That feeling, if channeled in the right way, can make us ambitious and work hard.

Channel it in a negative way, however, and it turns into an unhealthy obsession.

That’s a dangerous territory to cross.

When we obsess over something, we no longer have control of our feelings.

Ambition allows us to still think for ourselves.

Obsession, by official clinical definitions, is compulsive. Not only do we lose objectivity, but we also lose the ability to give attention to anything else.

I’ve always believed to attain anything, we as people have to do our part and leave the rest to a higher power or the universe.

For example, if you want to pass a test, your job as a person is to study for it as diligently as possible.

Beyond that, there’s nothing you can do but put forward your best effort and hope for the best.

So chase your dreams with all your might but don’t ever let the pursuit become an obsession.

Life…Step By Step

  1. “If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.”

-James Cameron

We all have goals and ambitions in life from the time we learn to think for ourselves.

And it is important to remember never to sell yourselves short.

Don’t ever think you’re not good enough for something.

That said, what is important is practicality and having your feet on the ground while embarking on any endeavor.

Reach for the top but reassure yourself that you do have to climb the ladder.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither are the journies in life.

Be ambitious about whatever you want to achieve. Just go about it step by step to ensure that you leave no stone unturned.


"For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone."

Audrey Hepburn