“When you have a bad day, a really bad day, try and treat the world better than it treated you.”
We all have these days: Your alarm didn’t go off or you hit that snooze button one too many times. Your hot water’s off. The traffic while going to work is much busier than usual. In short, nothing seems to go right.
Lately, this seems be happening to me. At first I was sick with the flu which exacerbated my depression. Then two nights ago, here in Dallas, Texas, we had a minor tornado and the power was out for nearly seventeen hours.
It’s like my life is not able to catch a break.
So how do we handle days or periods like that?
In previous posts, I’ve written about being grateful for what you have in terms of overall necessities like food, shelter, clothing, etc. In this post, I’d like to focus on the smaller things in life, be it pleasant surprises or everyday nuisances.
One of the first things you have to learn to do is not fault yourself for negativity that’s not in your control. I keep telling myself that this power outage is not my fault. I can either sit here and let it manipulate my feelings or refuse to let the negative energy win. By doing so, you also increase your ability of mindfulness. As any self-help program will tell you, the realization of a problem is the first step to solve anything.
Admittedly, that’s not easy. But to me, it’s like choosing the lesser of two evils. If I let a natural incident bring me down, it’s won’t solve the problem. Yet personally, I’ll be much worse off than I could have been. So I try to minimize the damage.
The other thing I think about is how much worse it could be. At least I’m safe and the tornado didn’t come during the peak summer when a power outage can make me sweat buckets because of the heat and no air conditioner. Again, psychologically, I’m minimizing the damage.
After minimizing the damage in my mind, I start thinking about the future. I start thinking of all the things I’m going to do after the bad period is over. For example, during the power outage, I kept reminding myself of the things I’ll do after the lights come back on. In my case, it was catching up on my favorite TV shows. But it can be anything that you’re looking forward to.
Remind yourself of other times you’ve had bad days and think about how you got out of that cycle. You survived that period so you’ll surely get through the current scenario.
The above tips cannot guarantee anything but there is a good chance that if you follow them diligently, your outlook will improve significantly.
How do you handle everyday nuisances or bad days? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below.