LONELINESS

What makes us lonely?  When do we feel loneliness and how do we get ourselves out of these dark places?  Let us first take a look at the meaning of loneliness in our Webster Dictionary as well as my best interpretation of how it should be defined?

Webster Definition of Loneliness-1.  Sadness because one has no friends or company  2.  The fact of being without companions;  solitariness . 3.  The quality of being unfrequented and remote;  isolation. 

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of  lonliness-feeling sad and depressed, usually because we have been alone too much.  

Loneliness often happens when we spend too much time alone, or spend our time with someone who is not the right person for us to be giving our time to.  What this means is if your with the wrong person in a relationship, it can easily feel your as alone as you would be without anyone around you, so it is important for us to distinguish between the two.  If your al0ne too often, you may also feel lonely as well.

feeling loneliness at different points in our life, for example after a breakup with another person,, is normal and we need to feel loneliness when we break up with someone to a certain degree to get through the steps of going through the breakup, (acceptance being the ultimate goal), we need to feel lonely so we can learn how to entertain ourselves  in a different environment such as  spending time with friends.  

Loneliness, when felt too often, could be a part of a bigger picture.  Depression is common amongst adults, but there are different degrees of it.  Feeling lonely is a part of depression, and in this case, part of a larger group of symptoms that go along with depression.  

Loneliness is more common than we’d like to admit.  It is also important to note when you’re feeling lonely, after a breakup, you can’t fix the feeling by spending time with just anyone to fill the void.  In fact, it can actually aggravate your feelings of loneliness by spending time with someone to fill the void, making the condition worse.  

Sometimes, on a rainy day, or in an environment of sadness, we may find ourselves feeling lonely for no apparent reason.  This is normal and not something to be concerned about.  Perhaps we’re at a place in our lives were ready to get into a relationship or just need to be with friends. Regardless, loneliness is a part of the human condition.  When you feel lonely, your job is to figure out why and again, if it is a part of something bigger, like depression.  Sometimes feeling lonely is because we simply need a hug or human contact.

Thanks so much for reading about loneliness today.  Now that your finished reading, scroll down beneath the post, where it says, “join the discussion” and leave a comment about your experiences with loneliness, or write a poem or quote about it.  Thanks so much,

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

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I’ve been isolating myself over the past few years and I feel lonely almost all the time. Where I live, there is very little for a 30 something single guy to do. Not very many places to meet people my age – whether for love or friends, because they are either too young, or too old, or divorced with kids. The people my age are either in a relationship, or married, and I do not share the same interests as they do. So it has been difficult for me to not be lonely. I’ve almost given up and accepted the fact that I’ll be lonely forever. But really, I am not alone – I have myself!

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Thank you Samantha. You have opened up the world to today’s post-modern poets.♥️

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I feel lonely when I’m on a different page than those around me which is almost all the time. But I fortunately I don’t feel lonely when I’m with my husband or my closest friends like MJ, Annie or Tammy Walker. or engaging with my DWW friends like Samantha and the DDW writers on Twitter.And I never feel alone when I’m alone with God or keeping company with my own private thoughts so I think everything is going to be alright. God will not fail me, and I am not going to fail my own values. Thanks all.