COUNSELING

At what point, do we decide that things are bad enough to get counseling?   When it comes to seeking advice about a problem, needing guidance, or counseling, I have found it is the healthy individuals who seek it.  When your unhealthy, mentally you have no desire to get help for yourself.  Your too caught up in the sickness, and the safety boat to get you out of the water and keep you from drowning, is far, far away.

Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of counseling in the Webster Dictionary and also, the daily wisdom words meaning.

Counseling-the provision or assistance and guidance in resolving personal, social, or psychological problems,  and difficulties, especially by a professional 2.  Advice, especially when given formally  3.  Consultation especially to give or seek advice.

Daily Wisdom Words Definition of Counseling-The act of helping another person who is lost, mentally or psychologically,  to be healthy again. 

Can everyone be a counselor?  I don’t agree with this statement.  Often times, giving advice or listening to one well enough to isolate the problem to give advice, is a gift.  I also don’t believe, that everyone who holds a license to counsel, should be a counselor.  Occasionally, we get misguided in what we want to do in life. I have always been told, I would make a good counselor.  

I didn’t agree with this statement when I was younger, as I suffer with depression and anxiety myself,  However, could it be possible that the best counselors are the ones who truly understand what it feels like when we have these issues?  You can be like me, and be in what I call, maintenance mode, where you have your issues under control and are healthy because of this.  

I have the same theory about wisdom.  In order to have it, you can’t have just read its definition, and become a person who has wisdom.  It is best, if you have suffered through similar circumstances, and can share to another how you were able to get past the issues.  Counseling is similar in this way. We always picture a good counselor to be one who gives good advice.  I think, a good counselor is someone who can also be a good, active listener.

What is the difference between listening, and actively listening?  When simply listening to someone, you might have your mind drift a bit. When you actively listen, you participate in the other person’s thoughts by clarifying the meaning behind what they are saying.  

Counseling can be very rewarding if your in it for the right reasons.  If your plan truly is to help individuals, and your heart is in it, you will be a good counselor.  However, if your looking at it as a means to an end, for a purpose that is less than that of good character, you won’t be good at counseling.  Counseling is a sacrificial career, even though you get something back by helping others.  It can also drain you of all of your energy if your not able to shake off or let go of another’s issues.  This issue can become so bad for someone that they end up spending their life focused on others problems, because they are not able to let them go once they have stopped working with them, and tend to drag the other person’s issues into their personal life.  

There is actually an extreme form of this issue when counseling others.  You can begin living vicariously through another’s issues, and manifest them as your own with evidence being this:  You’ve stopped focusing on your own life and are caught up in focusing on theirs.  The problem behind this happening, is that you don’t have enough separate, balanced issues in your own life, where you choose to let go.  

Thanks so much for reading about counseling with me today.  It is just next week, when Neel and I kick off our new page which is a part of the daily wisdom words website, and a service that can be accessed by members only:  Neel and Samantha’s Wise Advice.  We will do this Mon-Thurs. first as a team, and then we will be hosting alternate days, separately.  

The next part of this is the rest of the breakdown of our membership with daily wisdom words, which is just $10 to join, and good for a lifetime.  After that, I would really appreciate your comments, or a poem or quote about counseling as well where it says, “join the discussion”.  Thanks so much, Samantha

 

Daily Wisdom Words is a Poet/Author/Writer’s Website that is interactive, with many things to participate in.  For instance, we have Neel’s Wisdomology Page, A quotes page, with a poem included, and quote, which comes out all weekdays.  You can comment and “join the discussion”, beneath this post. We also have “DWW Picture Poetry available to you, Mon-Sat. which shows a picture of something cool, and two different words to insert within a poem that the picture and words inspire you to write, where you can get creative with your Poetry Juices.  There is also Daily Wisdom Words Blog, (What you just read) inspiring you to think, and “join the discussion “,at the end of each post, we publish every Monday/Wednesday/Friday, which we encourage you to participate with and include your thoughts and ideas..We also have Book Reviews for Authors that are inexpensive we not only post on this website in two different areas, but link to Amazon as well.  Our Book Reviews, are our signature with DWW, due to their pricing and thoroughness. We not only write a book review for you, but market it, for free on our website, linking it to Amazon and posting on facebook and reddit. There is also Shirley’s “Wise Reviews” of Poets, Present and Past, Published every Saturday about Poets of today, which are educational and interesting. Finally, on Saturdays, and Sundays, We have Monday’s Music Prompt, which your provided two cool songs with and the lyrics of these songs and these are fun and creative for you to participate beneath the post in the join the Discussion page.  We also give you a full page to design and create your Public Profile, where you can add your own personal links to recent books you’ve published, show a picture of yourself, and include other important links on and message, publicly or privately with the members, after they accept your friend request and you accept theirs. This is a great way to network you books, meet other authors and poets and communicate with them.  

Joining Daily Wisdom Words is just $10 for a LIFETIME membership, and includes usage of all of the above things on our website including our online store, where we will also offer what is called “Custom Poetry” written for someone you describes to us over the telephone where we create some lovely poetry for you to give as a unique gift to someone you know.  There is also a “community Webpage,” called community poetry which you can use to publish your own poetry or entry of any kind including  book review. Finally, we are currently in the process of developing a page we are going to call, “Wise Advice” from Neel and Samantha, Where you will be able to submit your issue you need advice on, and we will give you our opinion of what the best solution is for your problem, and publish this anonymously, or publish your name with it, depending on what you feel most comfortable with, and are given advice about a current problem you are having, to the best of our ability.  You may request advice from both of us or just one of us. The choice is yours, if your to see it publicly or privately for the public to view, or simply a private email returned to you with your answer. Should you like the advice your given, we also will want to share the question/answer we have come up with for you on Facebook and Reddit.  

Thanks so much, 

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

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