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CONSEQUENCES

CONSEQUENCES

EVERY CHOICE IN LIFE WE MAKE HAS “CONSEQUENCES”.  CONSEQUENCES ARE A PART OF LIFE.  THIS IS SOMETHING WE SHOULD UNDERSTAND WHEN MAKING MAJOR DECISIONS OR ANY DECISION FOR THAT MATTER.  THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF CONSEQUENCES.

1.  DIRECT CONSEQUENCES-THESE CONSEQUENCES HAVE SIGNIFICANT IMPACT WITH OURSELVES.  WHEN WE MAKE A DECISION, A DIRECT CONSEQUENCE OR RESULT TAKES PLACE AFTER THIS DECISION IS MADE.  THIS IS WHY WHEN MAKING DECISIONS, IT IS IMPORTANT TO EITHER:  A)  THINK THROUGH POSSIBLE OUTCOMES AS A DIRECT RESULT OF OUR CHOICES, OR:  B) WE FOLLOW OUR GUT AND MAKE DECISIONS QUICKLY BASED ON A HUNCH OR FEELING WITHIN.  HOW DO YOU MAKE YOUR DECISIONS?  DO YOU THINK THROUGH THEM AND DEDUCE POSSIBLE OUTCOMES DEPENDING ON WHICH DESTINATIONS YOU DECIDE UPON, AFFECT YOU WITH DIRECT CONSEQUENCES, SOME FAR MORE SIGNIFICANT THAN OTHERS.  

2.  INDIRECT CONSEQUENCES-THIS IS LIKE A RIVER WITH MANY DIVIDES.  THE DECISIONS WE MAKE ALWAYS HAVE BOTH DIRECT AND INDIRECT CONSEQUENCES.  INDIRECT CONSEQUENCES TEND TO BE THOSE WE CARE ABOUT THROUGH WHAT I CALL RIPPLING EFFECT.  IF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE BEFORE, THERE IS USUALLY SOMEONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MORE AND OFTEN THE BALANCE OF LOVE POWER ISN’T EVEN MEANING ONE PARTY CARES MORE ABOUT THE OTHER PARTY DEPENDING ON LONG-TERM GOALS, AND ONE PARTY CARES LESS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP FOR MANY REASONS, BUT OFTEN IT IS THAT THEY DID NOT INVEST THEMSELVES EMOTIONALLY WITH THE SAME DEGREE OF DEPTH THE OTHER PARTY DID.  THIS COULD BE FOR SEVERAL REASONS, BUT OFTEN IT IS BECAUSE THEY AREN’T THINKING OF THE RELATIONSHIP LONG-TERM OR NECESSARILY LOOKING FOR A LIFETIME COMMITMENT.  THEY MAY NOT EVEN WANT TO DATE EXCLUSIVELY, WHILE YOU ARE ON THE OPPOSITE END OF THE SPECTRUM, NOT ONLY WANTING TO DATE EXCLUSIVELY BUT WANT TO POTENTIALLY SPEND YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON.  

LET’S TAKE A QUICK LOOK AT THE WEBSTER DEFINITION OF CONSEQUENCES-1.  A RESULT OR EFFECT OF AN ACTION OR CONDITION.  2.  IMPORTANCE OR RELEVANCE

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF CONSEQUENCES-1.  A RESULT OCCURRING FROM A DECISION MADE THAT HAS DIRECT AND INDIRECT OUTCOMES.  

SOMETIMES, IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP, FOR EXAMPLE, THE CONSEQUENCES THAT OCCUR WHICH HURT ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL WHO CARES/LOVES/ WANTS MORE FROM THE RELATIONSHIP WERE GIVEN AWAY MOST LIKELY WHEN THEY STARTED DATING, TO BEGIN WITH, IF THEY ARE AN HONEST PERSON.  MOST LIKELY, IF FOR INSTANCE, YOU HAVE BEEN DATING AN INDIVIDUAL WHO IS DECENT, HE OR SHE HAD STATED TO YOU, TO BEGIN WITH, THEY WERE NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING SERIOUS.  THERE WAS A SIGNIFICANT MOMENT WHEN YOU THOUGHT YOU MIGHT CHANGE THIS OUTCOME OR “CONSEQUENCE” FOR THIS RELATIONSHIP FROM THE OTHER PERSON’S PERSPECTIVE.  YOU CHOSE TO IGNORE THE HONESTY SET FORTH UPFRONT BY YOUR PARTNER, THINKING YOU COULD CHANGE THEM.  THIS RESULTED IN BOTH INDIRECT AND DIRECT CONSEQUENCES FOR YOU AND INDIRECT CONSEQUENCES FOR THEM AS THEY WERE HONEST WITH YOU UPFRONT, SO BASED ON WHAT YOU’D TOLD YOUR PARTNER, YOU WANTED THE SAME KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WAS BEING DISHONEST.  THEIR INDIRECT CONSEQUENCES WERE HURTING YOU WHICH THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE AS THEY WERE HONEST UPFRONT THEY WANTED SOMETHING CASUAL.  THEREFOR, HURTING YOU WASN’T AN EXPECTATION THEY HAD AS YOU HAD NOT BEEN FORTHRIGHT UPFRONT AS WELL, SO THEY INDIRECTLY HURT YOU WITHOUT MEANING TO.  

THERE ARE TWO LESSONS WE CAN LEARN FROM THIS DAILY WISDOM WORD, CONSEQUENCES.  1.  LISTEN TO WHAT ANOTHER PERSON SHARES WITH YOU ABOUT THEIR WANTS AND NEEDS WHEN YOU ARE GETTING TO KNOW THEM.  ACCEPT THIS AS FACT.  THIS WILL RARELY CHANGE.  IF YOU CHOSE NOT TO LISTEN, THE DIRECT CONSEQUENCE YOU EXPERIENCED WHEN YOU FOUND OUT YOU HAD NOT CHANGED WHO THEY TOLD YOU THEY WERE, TO BEGIN WITH, WAS HURT.  THE INDIRECT CONSEQUENCE DISCUSSED ABOVE, IS THE OTHER PERSON FEELING BAD WHEN THEY DID NOT EXPECT TO AS THEY SHARED UPFRONT WITH YOU HONESTLY WHO AND WHAT THEY WERE ABOUT.

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT  CONSEQUENCES WITH ME TODAY!  I HOPE WE’VE ALL GAINED FROM DISCUSSING THIS.  THIS DAILY WISDOM WORDS BLOG IS JUST ONE WEBPAGE WITH A POST ON ONE WORD, ELABORATING INTO ITS WISDOM AS A SMALL PART OF A LARGE WEBSITE OFFERING SO MUCH TO ALL WRITERS, POETS, AND AUTHORS!  WHILE YOUR VISITING THIS WEBPAGE, LOOK AROUND THE ENTIRE WEBSITE!  WE OFFER #BOOKREVIEWS, #MUSICPOETRYPROMPTS, #PICTUREPOETRYPROMPTS, A LIVE YOUTUBE CHANNEL, YOUR OWN SOCIAL MEDIA PAGE, WISDOMOLOGY, A QUOTES PAGE WITH A WONDERFUL AUTHOR FULL OF ADVICE AND SHIRLEY’S WISE POETS OF PRESENT AND PAST!  WE OFFER WISE COUNSELING AND ARE THRILLED TO HAVE DR. D. FOR SHORT, A PSYCHOLOGIST WITH APPROXIMATELY THIRTY YEARS TEACHING AND COUNSELING CLIENTS OF ALL KINDS.  SHE WILL BE POSTING A WEEKLY ARTICLE ON THE WISE ADVICE PAGE AND DOING Q AND A FORUMS WHEN SHE IS FINISHED POSTING.  SHE SHOULD BE AVAILABLE OFF AND ON SUNDAY TO ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE, NOT ONLY ON WRITING, BUT ALL MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES!  WE ARE THRILLED TO BE WELCOMING HER!  DON’T FORGET TO ENJOY SHIRLEY’S WISE VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE, AND HER NEW PAGE COMING SOON AS WELL AS HER WISE POETS AND WRITER’S ARTICLES ON SATURDAY’S!  BOOK REVIEWS ARE $75 TEMPORARILY, AS THEY INCLUDE A PERSONAL INTERVIEW ON YOUTUBE WITH SHIRLEY, AS WELL AS SO MUCH MORE!  JOIN OUR WRITING PREMIER CLUB TODAY FOR JUST $5!  

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