When are the right times for us to give allowances to others? Let us first take a look at the meaning of allowances that is associated with our Daily Wisdom Word in our Webster Dictionary.
Allowances-1. The amount of something that is permitted, especially within a set of regulations for a specified purpose.
Daily Wisdom Word Meaning of Allowances-The amount of slack we give to another with things they say or do.
Allowances can be given too much or too little to others. Knowing what the proper boundaries are that are healthy for you and others is very important.
First, let’s take a look at giving too little flexibility or allowance with others. I have a friend, who is very strict to her principles. Whenever someone violates whatever principles you have, in regards to having things said or done in the proper manner, they expect the same from others. This is very difficult because what we believe is right or wrong, is not the same as what another’s set of principles and balancing between what is right and wrong as your is.
She tends to be very hard on people that don’t meet her expectations to the exact format she thinks they should be met. This causes her to get upset very easily, and others wonder if they can please her at all.
There is the other extreme which is the person that allows someone to walk all over their principles and beliefs without using any boundaries to stop them. They allow someone to push their boundaries of what they feel is wrong or right in regards to their behavior towards them, they end up losing self-esteem and belief in their own beliefs. This hurts them in the end.
We have to have a certain amount of flexibility with people. We have to believe that they deserve just enough allowances so their beliefs are not all exactly like ours, but not too much flexibility to cause them to lose their own way with what they believe in. It is important never to deviate too far from your own beliefs of how you should be treated, so you don’t accept being treated less than who you are. So, my first example of my friend that doesn’t allow any room for a margin of error ends up being disappointed in others because they don’t live up to her expectations, also leaves the other party believing that they cannot make her happy.
The second example I used allows someone to let someone walk all over what they believe violating their core principles.
Finding a balance between these two examples is the perfect example of the amount of flexibility we should use with others.
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